I am on the “fringe”. I don’t follow the herd. I don’t do the “group” thing. I don’t do what everybody else is doing.
I actually think for myself. I do my own thing. I set the standards. I AM cool.
I understand that you might not feel cool when people are asking you why you’re so weird with your diet, or why you need to go to bed when it’s still “early”, or why you won’t do a 10K with them, or why you said “no” for the 10th time to the cookies, birthday cakes and donuts at the office.
My friend and neighbor who was homecoming queen, was so thin and beautiful in high school, and she ate chocolate cake for lunch. In fact, she could eat whatever she wanted. I was so jealous because I couldn’t do that because I was fat. I felt left out, weird and self-conscious.
Later I learned that she had endometriosis and struggled for years with the pain, and starting a family. Her health suffered a lot by her food choices.
My other friend who was in band with me had a nice body too. At lunchtime she took the chips out of her lunch bag and threw them in the garbage. I was shocked that anyone would throw chips away.
I learned that she wanted to keep her beautiful figure.
So we make choices. You’re either a victim or you’re a leader.
Now people ask me what I do to look and feel so good. They want to know my secrets.
I do not feel sorry for myself. I do not want what “they” have.
I am in the know. I am setting the standards for a better way. I am a leader not a follower.
Be that person. It’s OK to say no. It’s OK to be different. It’s OK to set the standards. It’s awesome to be a leader and let your beautiful self shine.
In fact, there is no other way if you want a fabulous life.
Be strong, be cool. I’m here for you every step of the way.