I choose my body, my wrinkles, my partner, my dogs, my family, my car, my financial situation, my work, tough conversations, the pain in my shoulder, menopause, my judgements about myself, prison. Ok, well I don’t choose prison because I’m not in it, but if I were I’d choose it.
And I choose the wounds and nastiness of others. Because this is what happens when I’m being. I am choosing the present moment, whatever it may bring.
Because what I resist persists.
“When I resist my life I’m stuck. When I choose my life, anything is possible. We don’t choose for just any reason, we choose to live at choice. Choosing creates aliveness and vitality; resistance creates lethargy. Your duty is to choose, not to choose this or that.” Matthew and Terces Engelhart.
In their book Kindred Spirit they share their life-changing tools on relationship with yourself and others. My husband Eric and I had the privilege of attending one of their workshops this year and it’s been amazing for us.
When you think about it, we spend so much time literally hating our predicament. This takes us out of our hearts and into our head – into that place of ego that keeps us stuck and out of love with ourselves and our lives.
I hear from many women every day. And the story we tell about ourselves is mostly pain and loathing. We are so discouraged and sometimes disgusted about our bodies, our jobs, or how a friend or family member mistreats us. We hate having to eat a certain way to heal and we’re pissed that God gave us PCOS and hormone imbalance.
So what would happen, if for right now, we choose whatever is. We say, “I choose hair loss, I choose acne, I choose my body, I choose facial hair, I choose infertility, I choose night sweats, I choose being heavy, I choose being tired.”
And we also choose: healthy foods, drinking more water, getting more rest, a dairy-free and gluten-free diet, cooking more, loving ourselves, being happy, connecting more with friends, walking daily.
And then we ask our body what it needs? How can we better support it to heal and feel fabulous? What would it take?
I choose you in all your beauty and wisdom. What will you choose for yourself today?